Dr. Berman - I really do not want to known because I don't know if my girlfriend listens or not but I'm having real issues with our intimate life or the lack of it. She says she has no drive whatsoever. She also says that I am the best she has ever had. Ok if I'm the best and all then why don't we ever have it?  We are in love. I don't even think about cheating on her. We have been together for 3 years, she's had a hysterectomy.  I'm 50 and she's 45. I'm just at my wits end. I have needs. She is my heart and soul. How can I connect with her? Anonymous